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How to Deal With the Narcissists

In our daily lives, we may encounter narcissists among those we interact with such as our partners, friends, siblings, colleagues, and even our parents. It is often difficult to identify them, but they can have a negative impact on our lives without us realizing it. According to psychological research, there are two common subtypes of narcissists that we may come across, and it is important to learn how to recognize them. This article will provide essential information on how to identify these subtypes and offer effective strategies for dealing with different situations in life.

The two common types of narcissists

1. Individuals who exhibit grandiose narcissism are characterized by their visible display of greatness, attention-seeking behavior, a feeling of entitlement, and relatively low levels of anxiety. Although they may appear socially charming at first, they are actually cold-hearted individuals who forge relationships based on a calculated strategy to advance their personal goals and self-image. Those who have close interactions with them often report a lack of emotional warmth or mutual interest.
 

2. Individuals who are covert narcissists or "vulnerable" tend to harbor emotions of inadequacy, hollowness, poor self-regard, and disgrace. These sentiments lead them to avoid social gatherings where they believe they will not receive the recognition they are entitled to. They also avoid those that put them embarrassed. Such individuals tend to mask the sensation of superiority that occasionally surfaces inside them (the feeling of "grandiosity") under the guise of bashfulness and sensitivity. However, deep inside, they want to control and subjugate the person in front of them. Their actual emotions are concealed behind their behavior, which is the "hidden" factor.

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Ways of dealing with a narcissist under different circumstances:

1. Identify the type of narcissist you are dealing with

A narcissist who is considered "vulnerable" carries a heavy emotional burden that causes discomfort and self-doubt. They tend to express this frustration in a hidden manner, making it difficult to identify them as a potential problem. In contrast, a grandiose narcissist is more outgoing and confident, often demonstrating their behavior directly and emotionally.

2. Try to find the root cause of their behavior

If you expect to encounter a narcissistic person in your life, such as your boss or family member, it is recommended to deal with the grandiose type as they can be more focused on goals. Dealing with the vulnerable type can be challenging and requires patience and restraint, which will be explained in the following sections. It is critical to understand the root of their behavior.

When a narcissist is vulnerable, he seeks ways to boost his self-esteem. In some instances, he may undermine your authority in front of others, deriving pleasure and satisfaction from such actions. This behavior can be detrimental, leading to embarrassment or even ruining others' reputations, including you. To deal with such behavior, it is essential to recognize the root cause, which is often insecurity. Responding with maturity and offering validation can help provide the narcissist with the security he craves. However, one should be cautious not to overdo it and trigger hidden grandiose personality traits.

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3. Remember that a lot depends on simple circumstance

Narcissism is not an "all or nothing" trait - sometimes, we will not recognize that the person standing in front of us is a narcissist until we encounter him in a certain situation that will "bring out" this characteristic in him. Imagine a situation in which a woman works for a certain company and longs for a long time to receive a promotion. She suddenly discovers that the person who received a promotion at her expense is actually her best friend on the team. Now, the disappointed woman is forced to work with her friend who has become her manager. This can lead to defensive, vindictive, and irritating behavior that interferes with the normal flow of work and the general atmosphere.

If you recognize such situations, it is imperative to remember that this is the result of certain circumstances that actually formed the catalyst for bringing out the "monster," and that there is nothing personal against you here. In such situations, we advise you to remember that not everything is under your control. Things can also be resolved with a positive and honest conversation face to face.

4. Show composure and optimism

When dealing with a narcissist who takes pleasure in causing others pain, it's important to avoid displaying vulnerability. If they perceive that their actions are destabilizing or throwing you off balance, this will only encourage their aggressive and offensive behavior. In order to maintain your inner peace, it's advisable to remain calm and composed on the surface, even if you're angry or upset inside. By taking deep breaths, expressing positivity through your words and actions, and allowing negative emotions to dissipate, you'll find that the narcissist's provocations will gradually lessen and eventually disappear. If you follow the advice in previous sections, you can be less reactive and surprised by such situations. This will enable you to respond with greater restraint and composure. It's crucial to keep making progress in your life, regardless of any obstacles that may come your way.
 

5. Don't let them impede your progress

In case you come across an individual who fits into any of the aforementioned subcategories, it may seem like the simplest solution to lose your temper and become fixated on your aspirations in life, leading to anxiety, desire for retaliation, or thoughts about the narcissist. Nonetheless, as discussed in the preceding section, it is not necessary to react to every instance of defiance or malicious remark uttered by this person, no matter how extreme. You have to strike a balance between advancing in your personal and professional life and responding to the narcissist's comments and actions. This only emboldens them and fuels their behavior. We do not anticipate that you will overlook the situation entirely, as we are all human beings and not machines that can act devoid of emotion. However, we urge you to contemplate the eventual outcome, which has numerous implications for your individual life.

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6. Maintain a sense of humor

When you reach a level of diagnosis that enables you to identify a narcissist, you can also understand the root of their actions. This knowledge can help you navigate various situations with them. Once you realize that their behavior is insincere, you can easily ignore it or even joke about it on a more advanced level. To do this without offending them, you can respond to the teasing with a fleeting smile or a witty remark that points out their unprofessional behavior. This can change the tone of your interaction to something more lighthearted and indirectly convey your message without anger. This is especially effective with grandiose narcissists who may find the situation amusing and cooperate with you. It's worthwhile to note that understanding narcissist behavior is key to dealing with them.
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