Why do children bond with their grandparents?
There are many different reasons why children enjoy spending time with their grandparents, including the fact that the large generational gap creates a kind of dynamic of mutual support, where both the elderly and the young receive the emotional connection they need, despite their significantly different lifestyles. Here are some of the main reasons why grandchildren and grandparents tend to form strong bonds:
Leniency regarding rules and discipline
Even if your parents were very strict with you growing up, chances are they’ll be less strict with the grandchildren and might hesitate to enforce discipline or punish for less acceptable behavior. In fact, they’re likely to be less strict than you, making children feel that they have much more freedom around their grandparents and in their home.
Remember that when you were young, your parents were much busier raising you and trying to correct any problematic behavior you might have had. However, when they became grandparents, that responsibility was lifted, and they could fully enjoy the relationship with their grandchildren without worrying about their upbringing. They are more flexible with them, and their home becomes a place where children can truly relax.
They have a lot of knowledge and stories to share
Many grandparents enjoy the opportunity to offer advice from their rich life experiences, whether it’s about relationships or a career path the grandchild is considering. Children are more likely to share secrets with their grandparents than with their parents, and many are captivated by their stories and wisdom. Their stories, especially about their parents or themselves when they were younger, can strengthen the children's connection to their family history, making them look up to their grandparents with admiration and respect.
Unconditional love and great attention
Grandparents have much more patience than parents and seem to children like they always have time to play, tell stories, and simply give love without expecting anything in return, such as good behavior. Since grandparents don’t always live in the same house as the grandchildren, they are less preoccupied with daily parenting tasks and problems. They simply allow themselves to enjoy the grandchildren’s presence when they’re around. They bring an atmosphere of enjoyment, patience, security, and acceptance, which children are naturally drawn to.
Generosity and special treats
Grandparents tend to pamper children more than parents do. From the grandchildren's perspective, they might seem "more generous" than their parents, who sometimes cannot afford to indulge them as much due to time or financial constraints. Yet every little treat from grandparents feels huge to the children, as they see their grandparents as the most generous people in their lives who always come bearing gifts.
